Friday, August 23, 2013

Thoughts and Musings: Stop. Think. Act. Speak.

I really wish people would: Stop. Think. Act. Speak thoughtfully. I know I have been guilty of not doing this.

While at a restaurant, a waitress may not have been the greatest and wasn't prompt with her service to a customer.

But Stop... The customer doesn't know her story and doesn’t know what she is going through. Maybe she's a single mother with 2 kids and this is her part time job just so her kids can have nice clothes and food on the table. So she is worn out just like your favorite pair of jeans. So before speaking about your slow service, maybe reconsider what you say and speak thoughtfully. Granted she could also be a total fool and is just slacking off, but you as a customer don’t know this for sure. Being thoughtful is always better than rude, right?

The same goes for that waitress.

Think. The waitress doesn't know their customer's story. Yes, maybe they have the finest clothes and buy the most valuable wines. But maybe they are lonely. Maybe they just lost a loved one. Who knows really? Maybe they are a doctor that saves lives every day, yet cries every night for the one he could not save. You don't know. Granted, for all we know this person won their money with their gambling habit.

But regardless, I think we need to speak thoughtfully.

I think we live in a world that often believes what we clearly see is the answer. But we are so much more with layers and layers. So before you jump to judge someone, open your eyes a little bit more. Open your heart just little bit more. We are all human and deserve to be treated with respect and compassion.

You may wonder what inspired me to write this. This is something I've always lived by. Yet, I fail at it too from time to time. Especially in moments were I'm very angry and upset.  But my recent inspiration to share this reminder of my little life motto is that I recently started working a part time job at McDonald's. And wow, the sheer number of people that come in and out of that place is insane. I've only been there few short weeks and I've seen my fair share of not so nice people. Being new I have f-ed up and honestly, because how fast pace that place is, there's just bound to be a lot f-ups. But I'm running off on a tangent here. I won't focus on the bad customers.

Last night in the midst of a crazy dinner rush, I was working the front counter, taking order after order for an hour nonstop.  But we came to a little lull, and I was standing there nervously waiting for all the food to hit the trays. As I was standing there, I felt I should been doing something, anything. Especially since all my coworkers were bustling around grabbing food, making milkshakes, ice cream cones, etc for the counter and drive-thru.

Then a man whose order I just took spoke up (It took me a minute to register his face, that he was indeed the man that just placed an order for a Big Mac meal) , "Don't worry. You are doing just fine. Just breathe and you will get used to this." At that moment, I realized that I was transparent with my nervousness and not knowing what to do.  So I was a little taken back, but at same time I thought it was very kind of him say something. He saw me as person not just a robot taking orders. He took the time and saw my emotion, which so many people gloss over. So thank you, kind man, for reminding me of my motto and your encouragement of the crazy dance floor of McDonald's. I think one day I will figure out the ins and outs of this waltz!

Then something else happened that night. It was nearing the end my shift (11pm). This lady pulls up in the drive thru and I noticed that she had been crying. Her cheeks were all shiny, and I could just feel her sadness. My heart ached for her and honestly, I felt I the urge to cry for her. I asked my one coworker if he noticed, He said, "No, was she crying because we were running late with her meal?!" (Hmm, no. I don't believe so.) I didn't really put this together until I started writing this. But this kind of proves my point: we don't really see sometimes. When it’s time to hand her the food, I didn't know what to say. I was trying to scrounge up some nice words or anything, but I was really at a loss for words. So, I just decided to be nice and smile. I don't know if it touched her, but I hope my little act of niceness helped in some way or another. I hope dearly that her day is better today.

So, if you could just remember we have these interesting back-stories that effect who we are each day. That a smile and kindness really can go a long way. So with that, I hope you all have a good day and that you can let your teeth out for a little fresh air once in a while. ;)

Thursday, May 23, 2013

29 Going on 30 Bucket List (so far!)

29 Going on 30 Bucket List:

1) Do something that I might not do normally.
(Might not know what that is now but I'm sure I'll know at the time.)
Hmm... probably but nothing stands out!

2) Throw a party.
Does Throwing my son's 4th Birthday party count!? It was Mario brother theme!
But I also plan on throwing myself huge 30th birthday party! Although it will be after I turn 30 but A lot of planning and ideas have already gone into it!

3) Make a new friend.
I would say not exactly new friend but I have really connected with few people closer.

Ida and Avery!

4) Worry less, breathe more. (Trust me, that's a tough one!)
I'm mediating more! Although I still worry a lot.

5) Bake an apple pie.
Oops! Missed Apple Season! But I think I can accomplish this! 

6) Take Kade somewhere or do something new at least once a month. (Like going to the Zoo and Movies)
We have done a few things but I wouldn't say enough a new things once a month.
-We did Discover the Dinos!
-We went to Shaver's Creek Environmental Center
-Done some new crafts and artwork.
And I'm sure other things I can't think of at the moment

7) Go somewhere I've never been.
Scranton, PA
Kinda Lame I know.

8) Take a class.
This may not happen. :(

9) Start doing yoga.
I wanted to do a Yoga Class but Yoga dvds are cheaper! :)

10) Exercise more.
I'd say more then last year but not near enough yet!

11) Try a gluten free diet for at least a month. (If it doesn't stick, watch my intake of carbs.)
Tried for 2 weeks ha!

12) Eat healthy.
I do good for a little bit then I go back. Its up and down cycle!

13) Start my Etsy Shop!
Currently in the works!

14) Blog more.
Totally failing here!

15) Help someone.
I'm not sure I have help someone other then normal things.

16) Volunteer and/or donate something.
I have few ideas up my sleeve!

17) Create something new. (Maybe a new craft?)
I've done a lot artwork lately from drawings to painting. But I'd still like to explore this one more!

18) Refurnish something.
Nada yet.

19) Take photos with my actual camera and not just with my phone.
Hmmm some. Ha!

20) Watch 13 going on 30 and participate in the Thriller dance.
Dude?! Why haven't I done this yet!?

21) Make a wish on a shooting star.
Or this?!

22) Lose at least 20lbs. (Maybe even 30?!)
Lets not go there! But trying!

23) Make and do a "Good Thing in a Jar".
Started it and once in awhile I add to it!

24) Acts of kindness towards strangers.
I need to do this more!

25) The Color Run!
No color run yet. And if so in August it will be when I'm officially 30.
But I did do the Dirty Girl Mud Run!

26) Read at least 24 books. (Hopefully more!)
I want to say at least 10!

27) Cut my hair short.
Did it! :)

28) Have a spa day! (Relax, Mani, and Pedi)
Nope, not yet?! Maybe a birthday gift from one my awesome followers!

29) Take more walks.
Yes and no.

30) Do something that scares you.
I've talked about this but haven't yet. (I think I'm scared!)

So, what I learned: Time flies! It's not easy to do this all and juggle your everyday life. But it's been a pretty good year so far and I look forward to continue trying to complete these tasks before July 31st! A little over 2months! 

Friday, May 17, 2013

Someday I'll get there...

“You never know what's around the corner. It could be everything. Or it could be nothing. You keep putting one foot in front of the other, and then one day you look back and you've climbed a mountain.”
Tom Hiddleston

Saturday, November 10, 2012

A Fine Fall Day.

In mid-October my family and I attended some fall festivities!
It was a beautiful day surrounded by nature, pumpkins, and animals!
I hope you all were able to fit in a fine fall day as well.

Thursday, October 18, 2012

Fall has Fallen

Fall has fallen around me. It sure does sneak up on you.
I decided one day to take a walk and soak in all the beautiful fall colors.

Sunday, September 30, 2012

Mountain Cloud

I was driving home the other day and saw this cloud. I felt I needed to photograph this cloud because it wasn't your typical everyday cloud. It was as big as a mountain, I swear! Such a beauty to see!

Monday, September 17, 2012

Facing Sunshine

"Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see the shadow. It's what sunflowers do."
- Helen Keller

Something I need to remind myself from time to time.